Empower yourself to tell your story using STAR, a practical tool for more straightforward communication and self-advocacy.
Owning our stories is essential for effective self-advocacy. But how do we do that? Have no fear; there are evidence-based techniques that can help you get started.
One helpful tool for structuring these narratives is the STAR method, a widely used technique in various fields, mainly job interviews and performance reviews. (However, think about asking for that second cup of coffee or turning downon for our use-case another awkward dinner invitati.)
This structured approach helps craft a clear narrative that can empower us in diverse self-advocacy situations, from advocating for our needs with our loved ones to healthcare and criminal justice settings.
So how does it work? Thankfully, it's pretty straightforward:
Situation: Set the scene. Describe the context of your story. Where were you? What was happening? What were the key circumstances? Use cold data points like who, what, where, and when. This grounds your listener in the reality of your experience.
Task: Explain the challenge you're facing. Boil it down to a short sentence. Most importantly, this gives yourself clarity. Big bonus: it helps your listener build context around your ask.
Action: Detail the steps or things you think could help. Not sure? Share what you've tried already or a way your listener may be able to help you.
Result: Describe the outcome of your actions. What worked? What hasn't? What do you need the future to look like?
When stressed, it's much harder to think clearly and communicate effectively. Here are some examples of how the STAR method can be applied in different contexts:
On the Job: Use the STAR method to ask about your needs or respond to supervisor questions. For instance, if asked about a time you faced a challenge, structure your response using STAR to showcase your problem-solving skills. This aligns with research in communication studies that highlights the effectiveness of storytelling in persuasive communication.
Healthcare Settings: When discussing your medical history with a doctor, use STAR to clearly explain your symptoms, treatments you’ve tried, and their outcomes. This can help ensure you receive the best possible care.
Advocating for Your Needs: Whether asking a friend for help or requesting time off, use STAR to articulate your contributions and justify your requests. Research in social psychology on self-presentation suggests that structuring your narrative can enhance credibility and influence.
Owning our needs and advocating for ourselves is already challenging enough. By speaking clearly and grounding ourselves in facts and data, we can overcome the inertia that might keep us from genuinely communicating our needs. STAR is just one of the many communication methods we can try. Have something that works for you? Send us a note so we can share your wisdom with our community.